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The Beijing Made Easy Guide to Sex in China

Chinese people’s attitudes to sex might differ from those commonly held in the West, but other things don’t. Sex still happens all the time, even (or especially) when it’s not meant to, some people like men, some people like women, some pay for it, some sell it, some flaunt it, some keep it quiet.

A-Z of sex in China.

Sex in China: A

A is for ànmó, which literally means ‘massage’, but is the common euphemism for paid sex. If you Chinese colleagues invite your for a massage after a night’s hard drinking then they probably want to visit a brothel together. The same applies to the attractively dressed ladies that may approach single men at railway stations or near bars.

Sex in China: B

B is for breasts. It’s a simple fact that God gave Chinese women smaller breasts than almost any other race on earth. Breast enlargement ops were unheard of a decade ago, but are now increasingly common, as are several other forms of plastic surgery. It’s a Chinese old wives’ tale that if a girl has large breasts, they’re that way because she’s allowed too many men to touch them. Although not many people believe that, some men assume that voluptuous women are very interested in sex. This in turn leads to some non-Chinese women being the subject of unwanted attention or sexual harassment.

Sex in China: B

B is also for bī, which is a highly offensive word for the vagina. A popular Chinese insult is ‘shăbī’, which would translate literally to ‘stupid c**t’. When written it’s considered somehow less offensive to write a capital B instead of the Chinese character.

Sex in China: C

C is for condoms. If you’re only in China for a short time, it might be worth bringing your own, just to save the effort of buying them. They’re available in supermarkets. Don’t buy condoms from the tiny sex shops which sometimes (perhaps unwittingly) sell fakes, and stick to brands you know. This applies especially to more well-endowed readers who might find Chinese condoms a bit of a squeeze.

Sex in China: C

C is also for concubines, the ‘secondary wives’ of the wealthy men of ancient China, and for Chinese language, which could make your holiday all the more enjoyable. Cunnilingus is something a small number of Chinese women know nothing about – introduce it to them and you’ve a friend for life.

Sex in China: C

C is also for cào, which means ‘f**k’, and is a very widely used insult, for example ‘cào nĭ mā’, ‘f**k your mum’.

Sex in China: D

D D is for dìdi, or rather ‘xiăo dìdi’, which means ‘little brother’ and is every Chinese man’s nickname for his penis.

Sex in China: D

D D is also for Deng Xiaoping. You might not have thought it of the diminutive statesman, but Deng is largely responsible for all the ‘spiritual pollution’ (sex, drugs and rock ‘n’ roll) enjoyed by modern Chinese. Deng foresaw that China would face such problems when he began to open up the economy, but thought he could prevent them. Oops.

Sex in China: E

E E is for èrnăi, the wealthy, fashionable modern concubines of modern China. To some people they’re an unremarkable trapping of wealth, to others a sign of the materialism of the times.

Sex in China: F

F is for frigidity. Some men dating Chinese women may find this a problem. Oddly enough, Western women dating Chinese men almost never come across it. It stems from the fact that some Chinese people think that only sluts and whores enjoy sex. A proper Chinese girl consents to sex only out of a sense of duty, and to please her husband. If you’re a red blooded male and find this a problem then exercise patience. Make sure she knows you’d feel better if she was enjoying it and wouldn’t think she was a slut. Failing that, go down on her!

Sex in China: F

F is for Fish and Elephant. Fish and Elephant is China’s first lesbian film. It was shot underground by amateur actors and directed by a former television presenter.

Sex in China: G

G is for gay. Until recently homosexuality was thought of as a foreign disease, but there are now plenty of gay nightspots in Beijing. It’s quite normal to see gay couples canoodling in many of the city’s bars. Having said that, most Chinese people’s attitude is still ‘it’s fine just don’t try it anywhere near me’. We advise caution – don’t do anything unless you’re sure it’s ok.

Sex in China: H

H is for handjob and also for hairdresser – something easily confused down many a Beijing hutong. A pink lighted salon with a girl sitting in the window indicates that haircuts are off the menu, orgasms are on. Within Beijing it’s usually limited to handjob and a feel, in other Chinese cities it can be full sex – you just have to pick your place and see how it goes.

Sex in China: I

I is for internet. The internet is fairly well censored in China and the government generally takes a hard line against those caught distributing pornography via the web – the country’s most successful pornographer was recently sentenced to life imprisonment. Online forums provide a way to speak to Chinese people before you go to China – you may well come across some that are interested in hooking up.

Sex in China: J

J is for Japanese. Let’s not mince our words, the Japanese hold a special place in many Chinese hearts – one of pure and bitter hatred. Things didn’t improve in 2003 when the police uncovered a sex orgy involving 200 Japanese businessman and hundreds of Chinese prostitutes – timed to coincide with the anniversary of the Japanese invasion of China. Nevertheless, most of the blackmarket porn DVDs hawked on Beijing street corners are Japanese. Japanese women and Japanese sex practices hold a fascination for Chinese people – the use of naked waitresses as tables was recently banned in Beijing (a sure sign plenty of people were doing it). There’s a popular Chinese saying ‘For a happy life you should eat Chinese food, drive American cars, send your children to school in Britain… and have sex with Japanese women’.

Sex in China: J

J is also for jìnǚ, which means prostitute, although it’s also used to refer to insult any woman who sleeps around, even if they’re not a prostitute.

Sex in China: K

K is for karaoke bar, where prostitutes often lurk, and also for kissing, which until recently was something not to be done in public.

Sex in China: K

K is for kāifàng. Kāifàng means ‘open’ in any sense of the word, but when a Chinese person uses it to describe a woman it can be code for ‘a bit of a slapper’.

Sex in China: L

L is for lesbianism. Although most Chinese people know what a lesbian is, they’d be very surprised to find one sitting across from them at the breakfast table. There are no specifically lesbian venues in Beijing, although there are occasional lesbian nights.

Sex in China: L

L is also for love. Love, or aì in Chinese, is very important to Chinese people – although you could be excused for thinking it’s not quite as important as money. Arranged marriages were commonplace until very recently, and many couples are still not totally free in their marital choices, their parents have to agree first. Add to this the fact that the gap between the rich and the poor in China is one of the biggest in the world, and who can blame a few people for marrying someone rich first and waiting for the love to come along afterwards?

Sex in China: M

M is for Mao Zedong. Who would have thought the former dictator now lying pickled on Tiananmen Square would make it into an A-Z of Chinese sex? According to Mao’s personal physician, Dr Li Zhisui, Mao had groups of attractive, idealistic peasant virgins brought to his home for his enjoyment, mirroring Emperors of old who thought intercourse with virgins would bring them immortality. He allegedly also sometimes required his bodyguards to give him handjobs on train journeys when no-one was around, and may have had venereal disease. On an unrelated topic, he never brushed his teeth, preferring to just use green tea, and loved Red Cooked Pork.

Sex in China: M

M is also for the Mósuō ethnic minority of Southwest China who have a matriarchal society and practice open marriage.

Sex in China: M

M is for Mù Zĭmĕi, a Guangzhou journalist who became famous by blogging about her (many) sexual encounters.

Sex in China: N

N is for nightclubs, a very good place to meet single Chinese. In some nightclubs and bars, men will be approached by women almost as soon as they walk into the bar. Be aware that in some places, especially karaoke bars, you’re expected to pay for the pleasure of their conversation, and that may or may not be all that there is for sale.

Sex in China: P

P is for porn, prostitution and police. Porn is illegal in China, but the black market DVD hawkers usually have a few Japanese or American skin flicks. Porn magazines are a black market rarity, although ‘artist’s model’ magazines are everywhere and the philistines among us can’t help noticing that the models used are invariably extremely attractive. Online pornography is illegal and severe punishments are handed out to ringleaders.

Sex in China: P

P is also for prostitution and the police. The situation concerning prostitution is a little less clear. According to the law, prostitution is clearly illegal. When a 2003 orgy in a Zhuhai hotel involving several hundred prostitutes was busted by police, the ringleaders were given life imprisonment. Much more recently, a group of prostitutes were sentenced to 15 days imprisonment – and paraded in front of television cameras and had their identities announced on television, to shame others out of the trade. However, prostitution is still widely tolerated in other areas. Everybody knows that almost every sauna and massage parlour is a brothel and hotels often have their own prostitutes, and the police seem to turn a blind eye.

Sex in China: T

T is for Taoist sex practices. Taoist sex practices allow male practitioners to prolong orgasm and enjoy multiple orgasms by orgasming without ejaculation. According to the theory, having sex in the right way is an essential step on the path to immortality. It’s particularly helpful to have sex with virgins – something that many Chinese Emperors found coincided perfectly with their own natural inclinations.

Sex in China: V

V is for viruses. No, it’s not a jolly topic, but it’s even less jolly to actually have one. STI’s, and ignorance about their causes and cures, is rife in China. Quack cures down back alleys are readily available, real ones involve a fair degree of humiliation. Obviously Beijing Made Easy has the utmost respect for everyone wise enough to visit this site, but frankly if you have unprotected sex with someone who’s sexual history you can’t be completely sure of, then you’re a fool.

Sex in China: W

W is for wife-napping. Wife-napping, where women are abducted and sold into marriage or prostitution, is an increasing problem in China where in some areas the number of boys born outnumber the number of girls by 116 to 100. Add to this the fact that many women are abandoning the rural areas for the richer coastal areas, and you begin to see why young women are a commodity worth stealing. It’s estimated that China may have as many as 40 million bachelors by 2020. Abducted women are typically sold either to brothels, or to single men in the countryside. They are sometimes locked inside their houses, or have their achilles tendons cut to prevent them from running away. The governement is genuinely trying to crack down on this appalling trade, but lack of resources mean that thousands of women are still abducted every year.

Sex in China: X

X is for xiăojiĕ. In days of yore xiăojiĕ just meant ‘miss’ and was a polite way to address a waitress or a young woman you’re not familiar with. Nowadays it’s come to mean prostitute, so a lot of waitresses get annoyed if you shout it at them when you want your teacup refilled. The karaoke boom led to a distinction between three different types of ‘miss’ – ones who’ll just sit and chat with you for money, ones who’ll sing with you, and ones who’ll sleep with you. Thus a ‘three accompanies miss’ (sānpèixiăojiĕ) is very definitely a prostitute, whereas an ordinary ‘miss’ (xiăojiĕ) might just the there to talk and sing.

Sex in China: Y

Y is for You. Foreigners of both sexes tend to be very popular in China. Cynics might say that it’s to do with money and passports, Darwinists assert it’s plain old Xenophilia. Whatever, we hope you have a good time!

Sex in China: Z

Z is for Zuò to do (it). If you do it in Beijing, please be careful and have a great time.



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